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Caregiver burnout

Care giving for a spouse suffering from Alzheimer’s disease or another form of dementia raises the mortality of the spouse providing the care.

This is a very complex time in life. We often see a family caregiver who has lost weight, is sleep deprived and a has compromised immune system. It is ironic that the family caregiver’s health fails while their loved one is in relatively good health other than the effects of dementia.

Resentment can also set in on the caregiver. Irritability, hopelessness and helplessness also take over. Some are filled with anger, sadness, and a sense of failure. Depression is a risk as a result of these stressors, emotions and illnesses. It becomes clearer why caregiver mortality rises.

Studies show that mortality rises when a spouse is providing care for dementia.  Most studies show about a 63% increase in mortality for the caregiver in this type of situation.  Unfortunately it does not stop there.  A study done by The New England Journal of Medicine in 2006  shows that a wife’s risk of death is 61% greater during the first 30 day following the death of her husband.  While not as great, the husband’s risk is 53% following the 30 days after his wife passes.

Imagine planning for your golden years throughout your adult life. Perhaps you envisioned traveling the world on cruise ships, or seeing the USA in a RV, or even a simpler life puttering around in the garden, doing things you never had time for earlier. These visions fade because of a horrible disease.

Providing care for your spouse with dementia makes it difficult to sleep, shop, cook, and do most other activities that were routine and once taken for granted.  Socializing becomes a thing of the past. The caregiver stops going to church, family functions, and social events as a result of having to stay home to make sure their spouse is safe.  Isolation and burn-out can be self imposed because of the belief that no one can do it as well as a family member.

Furthermore, the family caregiver feels a loss of  identity as mom, dad, friend, confidant, grandma or grandpa when every ounce of energy is directed at caregiving.

There are devastating consequences to personally providing 24 hour care 7 days per week without getting outside help.

If you can identify with the above, take it upon yourself to get help. Many communities have caregiver support groups where you can find out how others cope successfully. Senior centers may offer day care and there are agencies where you can hire caregivers to give you a break by coming in for a few hours on a regular schedule. Assisted living facilities often have respite programs for overnight stays.

 

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